By Gyna Jean-Pierre
CSMS Magazine
Single women seeking a relationship are like pregnant mothers in distress; and if they’re shy and feel trapped, their holes are even wider and deeper.  To hide their deplorable situation, they become cocoonish, concealing their self-inherit timidity until their youth glow fades and they’re left utterly vulnerable to all forms of exploitations. Relationship guru, Steve Ward, says being single and seeking a relationship is like warfare, and every date is another battle.
Sentimental overtures are by no means caving in to desperate urges. Nor do they mean surrendering one’s pristine dignity. You know who you are, and no one knows you better then you do. Treat dating like it’s a mission you must accomplish or a fight you have to win. It is strategically important to know the rules and, to win, it is imperative to have a game plan as well as some idea of how you intend to put plan into action.
If you are in a rut, here is what the experts are saying:
a.      Ask your best friends to set you up.
b.     Reach out to everyone you know who has a single friend.
c.      Get out of your cocoon and branch out.
d.     Design your plan.
e.      Join a club (a book-club is key) or an office sport team.
f.      Try taking a class a local university.
To strengthen your stratagem, you need to spice it up with some other reinforcements like changing your regular gyms, volunteering, and shopping at a different grocery store or mall. Last but not least, find a hobby that can be done in a group. Be social! Spread your wings like an eagle. Do these, and you are guaranteed to overcome your challenge.
Note: Gyna Jean-Pierre is a creative writer. She is the author of several essays on women in the Caribbean. She lives in Ponte Vedra, Florida.Gyna can be reached at publisher@csmsmagazine.org
